All Oblates are encouraged to live their lives in as great a conformity with the Rule as their state in life allows. This might include anything from full attendance at the monastic offices and daily Mass to silently uniting oneself with Jesus in the midst of sickness. What is important is a real desire for holiness in union with Christ, in the spirit of the Gospel, with St Benedict as guide.
To become an Oblate an aspirant should write to the Oblate Master, with a reference from their Parish Priest. Attendance at three consecutive meetings is required before being admitted as a novice oblate. The noviciate comprises one year, during which attendance at all the monthly meetings, where this is possible, is required. If it seems appropriate at the end of the year the candidate is invited to make their final Oblation.